How to Ease the Pain of Heartache
PsycheYou’re experiencing a profound form of grief that can make you physically ill. These steps will give you a chance to heal.
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Breakups are one of life’s most destabilizing, unmooring—and common—events. We’ve all been there and yet, when your heart is breaking, you can feel completely alone.
Amidst that loneliness, you’re navigating the loss of a partner, an imagined future, and a version of yourself that can feel further away each day. But we promise—you will find your way back to yourself. To help you get there, we’ve rounded up the best advice, from both professionals and people going through it, just like you. Plus, the best break-up anthems to blast, the anti-love poems that speak to your soul, and the movies and books that have helped countless romantics cope.
It may feel endlessly hard right now, but it won’t feel this way forever. From our corner of the web to yours, sending hugs and comfort and all the stories below.
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You’re experiencing a profound form of grief that can make you physically ill. These steps will give you a chance to heal.
Use “negative reappraisal,” and understand you have work to do—time alone may not be enough.
BONUS WATCH: Guy also gave a TED Talk on heartbreak.
These are the best breakup songs to help heal your heart.
For breakups, heartache, and unrequited love. More “screw Cupid” than “Be mine.”
Sometimes a good breakup quote can be the thing that helps you be strong or move on when you’re dealing with heartbreak and the concern that you will never be whole again. (You will be, we promise!)
Here’s an eclectic list of books to read after a breakup, featuring a mix of novels and non-fiction. First comes sadness, then distraction, then putting your life back together — and there’s even some romance for when you’re ready to think about happy endings again.
Like Taylor Swift, karma is our boyfriend.
“The Museum of Broken Relationships is a collection of ordinary objects hung on walls...all donated by strangers, each accompanied by a story.”
This site is a repository of things to do, watch, read, listen to, and think during times of heartache. Here you’ll explore more than 400 suggestions from real human beings who have been through the pain you’re feeling now.
BONUS LISTEN: This episode of the Death, Sex & Money podcast inspired Emily to create the Breakup Survival Guide.